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A Hypnobirthing mum’s top tips on how to cope with Toddler Tantrums

A Hypnobirthing mum’s top tips on how to cope with Toddler Tantrums

My son has just had his second birthday. I can’t believe how fast the time has gone and now I have a very confident, chatty, hilarious, caring, gorgeous, defiant little boy. However, his transition from babyhood to toddler has caused some epic meltdowns. This could be due to anything. Topics include but are not limited to now being allowed to eat whatever I am eating, because the cat jumped on the sofa, because outside is outside, not being allowed to go to bed in the garden because he is not allowed to live at his cousin’s house….

So here are my top tips on how to cope with toddler tantrums. There is a caveate though, I am by no means a child psychologist or training childcare professional these are just my own tried and tested attempts at calming a raging toddler!

1. Breathe – Try to take a few deep breaths (Hypnobirthing breaths will help). If you are lucky the tantrum may have even stopped by the time you get to the end of your breaths. If you are not so lucky breathing deeply will help you to keep calm. You are the grown up, you need to manage the situation and convey the behaviour you want. If you want calm behaviour you need to exhibit it too.

2. Distraction tactics “Teddy, look at the Lorry! Where do you think it is going?” Improvise, use your environment. Take your toddler’s attention from whatever is causing them distress. If this tactic works clearly whatever they were kicking off about wasn’t that important.

3. Allowing them to calm down in their own time, then getting down to their level and explaining the situation to them and finishing with a big hug. I think a lot of my little boy’s tantrums are due to him not understanding the situation/ not being able to express himself properly yet. It is usually pure frustration. This approach seems to make him happier about what is going on.

4. Safety – If your toddler is having a major tantrum of the throwing themselves on the floor, screaming and kicking variety then move them to ensure they are safe. Whilst you are picking them up/moving them/holding them explain what you are doing and that you are making sure they don’t hurt themselves then wait it out.

5. Remember it will pass. This tantrum will not last forever, it will end and your child will calm down. Lot’s of people have given me the advice “It’s just a phase”. I know it’s a cliche and it’s really annoying when people say it but it is true. I have to keep reminding myself of this one!

5. Laughter. It may be hard in the heat of the moment, however, seeing the funny side can take the edge off. I mean really, throwing yourself on the floor because you’re not allowed to eat cat biscuits is pretty funny when you think about it.

I hope some of these tips are helpful. I’m sure there are plenty more tantrums brewing in my little boy so I must remember to take my own advice.

A Hypnobirthing mum’s top tips on how to cope with Toddler Tantrums

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Bucks and Berks Hypnobirthing delivers one-to-one and group Hypnobirthing sessions in Buckinghamshire and Berkshire. Areas covered in Buckinghamshire include: Marlow, High Wycombe, Bourne End and Beaconsfield Areas covered in Berkshire include: Maidenhead, Cookham, Windsor and Reading

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